Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. - Carl Jung
In my case it is very true. One of my biggest pet peeves is people who don’t do what they say they will do. Because of this, I very seldom ask for help. So, then, what does this lead to? Yup, me not being able to get everything I said I would do in a timely manner. The perfectionist in me is not happy about it! For the most part I am good about calling to say, xyz will no longer be happening when I said it would. It is a courtesy that is not always returned to me though, I must say. So, this is something that I am focusing on working on this year.
There are things that I haven’t gotten to yet that are incessantly buzzing in the back of my mind as I go through each day. I can count them on one hand & still have fingers left over. But it doesn’t matter how few there are. They are there and I am hyper aware of them. I can’t help but wonder how people who habitually don’t keep commitments handle the buzzing in their heads. Only psychopaths have no sense of guilt. Perhaps, they quantify the dismissed commitments as “no big deal”. This noise is still buzzing even if only subconsciously.
You are what you DO not what you SAY. -Carl Jung
NOTHING good comes from this buzz. Every time I don’t keep a commitment (and it doesn’t matter if it is ‘big’ or ‘small’) it diminishes trust. It diminishes trust that the other party has in me. THAT in and of itself is bad enough. What’s worse is that it diminishes my trust in myself. The times in life when I have a hard time starting a project or bringing one to completion are directly related to how well I have been doing with keeping commitments. It does not have to be this way. A text, a call and e-mail to de-commit sent as soon as possible can silence the buzz & retain trust. I have to remind myself that I too deserve the courtesy of a de-commitment from myself as well.
Me: Hey, Self.
Me: I’m de-commiting from going to the gym 5 days a week. Between rehearsals and shows, though, we’ll stay physical.
Self: Ok, thanks for letting me know. I’ll tell the nagging voices in our head.
People actually did huge business deals on a hand shake. Being integritous of one’s word is a dying practice, it seems. Nowadays, we need a contract for the contract to be honored. Lack of integrity spawns hypocrisy also. I see so many people foam at the mouth about, for example, being owed money. Yet, these same people will not think it a big deal to pay a bill late (Of course, I’m not talking about when you just don’t have it). Hello, you owe these people money! This is also a commitment. But it is justified because, well, the landlord has money or the big company has money or any other myriad of excuses. All is energy, all is karma. Don’t get me wrong, life happens. Nothing is absolute. I have had incidents of accidentally double booking myself, for example, to prove it .
OK, there I admitted it. Am I the only one that thinks this way? I’m so curious to hear your thoughts on this one.
- 10.”Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.” -Carl Jung (enlightendevourevolve.com)